When the book came out, in 2005, one of my friends bought it for all her female acquaintances and gave it as a gift. Yes, I got one too, but my Chihuahua chewed it before I had a chance to open it. I never intended to read it (I was just not that into it), so it was ok. with me. Now, the movie comes out, and it’s a different story. I like it. I like it a lot, and I think that when it comes out on DVD I will buy it as birthday presents for my friends. This is not a movie just for single women, or dating freaks, or lonely, sad hearts.
At one point in our lives we’ve all (either woman or man) been Gigi (played hysterically perfect by Ginnifer Goodwin). And if we haven’t, we will! Desire blinds you sooner or later, no matter who you are. And if not Gigi, then we’ve all been Connor (played by Kevin Connolly). Connor doesn’t return Gigi’s calls, but the truth is he is a Gigi himself, as the object of his desire, Anna (played seductively by Scarlett Johansson) is not sharing his dreams or passion.
If you were never Gigi, or Connor, then maybe you’ve been Beth (played by Jennifer Aniston), who wonders if she should call it off with her boyfriend of 7 years, Neil (played by Ben Affleck), as he does not want to make it official and get married.
No? No resemblances yet? OK… What about Janine (played by Jennifer Connelly), who is not sure she could trust her husband, Ben (played by Bradley Cooper)? We’ve all been uncertain of our other “halves” at some point or another, haven’t we?
You still don’t see yourself in these characters? Then maybe you are Mary (played by Drew Barrymore), who’s found not 1 but 3 loving, supportive men, but unfortunately all gay. Or maybe you are Alex (played by Justin Long), the bartender, full of great advice for others, but failing to recognize love when it’s right in front of him.
If you’ve never been any of these characters, the chances are dwindling when we get to Anna. I mean… where is the God of fairness? Women are either sexy or beautiful. It is very, very rare that they are both. Actually I’m mistaking: Anna’s not only sexy and beautiful, but she is talented, she is funny, she is easy going, she is a great friend (who’s willing to swim naked for her male friend’s delight), she is…, she is…, she is… how can you compete with that? And how can men like Ben (or Connor) resist her?
You can be the exception, or you can be the rule. It’s not important. What is important is that whatever you are doing, or whoever you are, is what makes you happy. Nobody should dictate what the norms or rules are in relationships, love, or dating. You shouldn’t be afraid to be who you are, just because common sense says so. Yes. You should recognize that after 2 weeks of not calling after a date he/she might not be interested, but you know what? Hope for sure never killed anybody.
The truth is men and women are doing a great job at not understanding or “reading” one another. Miscommunication is the norm of every relationship (dating or married). Men understand men, and women understand women. And only a good shrink understands both.
Bottom line: women are not deluded fools, and men are not emotionally immature cheaters and liars. Somewhere, somehow, we are all looking for love, and miraculously enough, we all find it. And to prove this to you you’ll always have “He’s Just Not That Into You”, the movie.